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Sex is about more than dysphoria.  Sex is about more than genitals.

I will help you figure out what that "more" is for you.

This group is part sex ed and part connecting and learning from each other.

You'll leave knowing more about yourself, what you want, and how to get it.   

This group is designed by a trans man for trans-masculine adults who want to deepen their relationship with their sexuality.

  • For folks newer to transition and folks with more years under their belts.

  • For trans-masc people of all sexual orientations and sexual interests. 

  • For people over age 18. 

  • For both binary and non-binary trans-masculine people. 

  • For guys in relationships and guys who are single.

  • For guys post-surgery, pre-surgery, and those not interested in surgery.

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This group is not a sex therapy group or a trauma processing group. If either of those are things you're looking for please let me know and I'll connect you to other providers. 

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Still not sure if this group is for you? Send me an email and let's talk about it!​

TRANS PLEASURE IS AN ACT OF RESISTANCE

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Week 1 - Welcome​​

  • We'll address trust, connection, and joy so that you can begin to feel like this is a safe space for your journey.

Week 2 - Calling In

  • We'll make time to look at what's working and what you're hoping to change through this program. ​

 Week 3 - Mirrors and Models

  • We'll identify our sexual pleasure lineages and discuss intimate justice so you can start to incorporate community into your sexual story.

Week 4 - Plumbing and Embodiment

  • We'll discuss how our bodies work, how we want to relate to them, and how they've changed so you can clarify your relationship with your body. 

Week 5 - What is Good Sex? -

  • We'll examine your beliefs and the wheel of sexual pleasure so you can clearly communicate your definition of good sex.

Week 6 -  Getting What You Want 

  • We'll talk about attraction, relationships, and communication strategies so you can share with others what you've learned about yourself. 

Week 7 - Desire and Fantasy

  • We'll learn more about desire and fantasy in regard to both partnered and solo sex so you can continue to explore sexual pleasure in multiple ways. 

Week 8 - A Lifetime of Trans Pleasure

  • We'll share experiences and resources so we can support each other's integration, growth, and pleasure. 

“This group was an incredible way to connect with other guys about my sexuality as a trans man. I learned a lot about myself while thinking through Damon's prompts, and it was so validating to hear that others were working through the same questions about how they felt about their bodies and sexuality. "

Samuel

FAQs

1. When is it?

We will be meeting on Tuesdays from 5-6 pm EST. 

Dates: 10/1, 10/8, 10/22, 10/29, 11/5, 11/12, 11/19, and 11/26. 

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2. How much does it cost? 

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Fee 1: No-fee/Pay what you can (for BIPOC participants)

Fee 2: 500 (Reduced Fee)

Fee 3: 700 (Full Fee )

Fee 4: 900 (Full Fee + 200 to support access for folks with lower income)

Fee 5: 1100 (Full Fee + 400 to support access for folks with lower income)

 

The fee is set up as a scale in order to create more access for folks with different levels of income. There are two no-fee slots for BIPOC participants. Additional BIPOC participants will be offered pay-what-you-can. Monthly payment is available. 

 

Guideline to Help Determine Your Fee

  • If you live with very little wiggle room financially, choose the lower end of the scale.

  • If you are doing well enough to regularly eat out, buy new clothes, and have no trouble paying your bills or buying groceries, choose the middle to upper end of the scale.

  • If you enjoy the benefits listed above plus vacations/travel, have investments, assets and/or significant savings, supplemental generational wealth, or if paid work is an option, not a necessity, choose the top of the scale.

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3. What if I can't attend a live call? 

If you are unable to attend a group I can provide you with the activities that we participated in that day. I don't record calls in order to protect the privacy of everyone in the group.

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4. What is the refund policy? 

Your payment will be refunded in full before the first group if you choose not to participate. If you choose to not continue during the first four weeks of the course you will refunded 50%. There are no refunds for participants ending after four weeks.

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5. Is this group therapy? 

No, this program is not group therapy. It is part class and part coaching group. There will be an opportunity to interact with each other and as a whole group.

Your Group Coach

I am a white queer trans man, sex coach, sexuality educator and sex nerd. I've been working in the field of trans health for 20 years.    I've had the opportunity to work for Mazzoni Center and The Attic Youth Center, both LGBTQ-focused organizations. I currently have my own practice where I provide therapy and coaching to mostly queer and trans clients.  In 2019 I co-authored the book Sex Therapy with Erotically Marginalized Clients: Nine Principles of Support. I also teach other healthcare providers about working with trans and queer communities through my work at Widener University and the California Institute for Integral Studies.

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My personal and professional experiences have taught me how to create a curriculum and a trans-affirming container to hold and celebrate your whole self.  I'm here for you and for our community; using my unique skills and perspectives to hold and honor trans sexual pleasure in a world that too often does not see us. 

 

As a white person, it is my responsibility to challenge and end white supremacy. I am actively engaged in anti-racist learning and strive to create spaces that feel as safe as possible for BIPOC participants. 

Join the Waitlist

Be the first to know when the program will be offered next! 

Group Guidelines

  • This group is a coaching group, not a therapy group. 

  • Groups take place via Zoom on Tuesdays 5-6 pm EST. 

  • You always have the right to pass. Consent is a priority.

  • Information shared in this group is private. Groups will not be recorded.

  • In this group, everyone's identity and experience will be respected.

  • If you decide not to go ahead with the group before the start date you will get a full refund. If the group has started and you decide you don't want to continue there will be a 50% refund. 

  • Participants are asked to attend all eight groups. If you miss a group I can provide you with handouts and activities, but not a recording.

The fee is set up as a scale in order to create more access for folks with different levels of income. There are two no-fee slots for BIPOC participants. Additional BIPOC particpants will be offered pay-what-you-can slots based on availability. Required

Guideline to Help Determine your Fee

  • If you live with very little wiggle room financially, choose the lower end of the scale.

  • If you are doing well enough to regularly eat out, buy new clothes, have no trouble paying your bills or buying groceries, choose the middle to upper end of the scale.

  • If you enjoy the benefits listed above plus vacations/travel, have investments, assets and/or significant savings, supplemental generational wealth, or if paid work is an option, not a necessity, choose the top of the scale.

I'm looking forward to connecting with you!

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